You have the power within you

Have you ever wanted something connected to your heart?

My story starts back in 2015 when I realized with devastation that the dynamic of my relationship with my wife changed.

She no longer loved me like she loved me before. The spark was gone. She no longer trusted me. She no longer respected me. She was the love of my life and somehow I lost her. We stayed married, but our life together was nothing compared to what it was when I was her hero.

When I tried to change the dynamic back to positive I had no power to. She wasn’t opening back up to me and I had no idea why. I didn’t know how to do it. I tried approval seeking behaviors. I tried going above and beyond. I just wanted her back but it was futile. I was helpless and I stayed in a state of sadness and helplessness for a couple of years.

One day I woke up and I decided to fight for my life, the people that I love, and to regain the beautiful positive dynamic that my wife and I once shared in our relationship. I went to therapy and began to educate myself to decode why I was powerless and shift the dynamic back.

I learned that I had power leaks that were keeping me from having the power to change, the power to be there for the people I love, and the power to have happiness. These power leaks were causing imbalances in the important areas my life. Taking my power back meant being honest with myself about where my power was being spent.

I began to see that I had patterns that caused imbalances in my life that were affecting my wife and everything that was important in my life. I learned that the imbalances in my life became so great that they caused the shift in the dynamic of my relationship with my wife. I had addictions. I had patterns of people pleasing. I had low impulse control. Despite making good money in my career in the tech industry, I was spending all the money I made. I could see that my inability to bring balance to my life was due to subconscious beliefs that were keeping me stuck. I began to “clean house” in all areas of my life. Little by little I began to change these patterns.

I learned that I didn’t know how to listen. So I learned how to listen.

I learned that I had problems with emotional regulation, so I began to learn to heal what was in pain.

I didn’t know how to connect to my kids, so I learned how to establish a one on one connection with each of them.

I have a son with special needs and I didn’t know how to help him, so I learned to connect to him. When I learned how beautiful he was and that he was a genius. I thought about how it would have been tragic for me to never have learned what I learned about him.

I didn’t know how to communicate my needs, so I first began to understand what my needs were. When I knew what my needs were, I began to communicate them with the people in my life. At first this was scary as hell, but over time, the people that wanted to be in my life responded and turned to me. The people that wanted to see me as unworthy of their love were removed from my life.

I made being a husband and father my number one job and I trusted the universe to support me while I tried to figure out how to be at home full time to be there for my kids and my wife as we all worked together to become better humans. When I saw that my career had aslo been in the way of “being there” for my wife and kids the way that they needed, I left my career.

After years of therapy, education, stepping into my role as husband and father, and fighting to return balance to my life like a warrior, the dynamic of my relationship with my wife began to shift back. I overcame addictions. I set boundaries with myself and others. I learned to master my impulses as I viewed them as potential power leaks that would lead to chaos and imbalance. I overcame my people-pleasing tendencies. Love returned to my heart and to my relationships.

I learned that I had unlimited power to be who I wanted to be and to change my life when I harnessed it. I began to live from the heart. My family life had been in chaos and I used my power to bring it back in balance. When my life was in balance, I began to take my power back from the useless areas that were draining my energy to be in my life with power and love.

I have worked my ass off to become the man that I wanted to be. I have restored the beautiful dynamic with my wife. She adores me now. She loves me more than she did before. My kids look up to me again. Most importantly, I have a beautiful connection to myself, and that was the key to finding balance and using my power to make big changes in my life. I am my own hero now. I am a masculine man. I find my approval from within. I allow no one and nothing to take my power from me. My wife and kids know that I am there for them. My four sons have watched me grow up in front of them. They all know that change is possible and that they can also find their power and be who they want to be.

Do you want something and you don’t know how to get it? I also used to not know how to get what I wanted, but now I do.

You have the power. You just have to learn how to harness it. Everything that is out of balance can be balanced. You can shift the dynamic of your most important relationships. You can have a beautiful life. Do you want it? Go get it.

This is your time. MAKE IT COUNT!