Masculine and Feminine Balance in Relationships

I was leaking power to addictions and people pleasing under the pressures of life. I lost her and I went on a quest to get her back. This meant brining balance to my life.

Healthy Masculine Balance – power to create the world that the feminine feels safe in:

• Power to provide for the physical needs of the feminine.
  • Protection from physical threats
  • Provide physical needs like sustenance and shelter.
• Power to provide emotional safety:
  • You are safe with me.
  • You are free to break down and I will still be stable.
  • Life doesn’t scare me.
  • I support you and I am behind you no matter what.
  • I face hard things in life with courage.
  • I’m not distracted by any external influences.
  • I’m focused on what is important.
  • I’m connected to myself and the needs of my family
  • I don’t break under pressure. My family depends on me to be strong.
• Be reliable. I am dependable. You can count on me to be there when you need me.
• My energy is focused on the things that matter.

This environment:

Is the basis of attraction

Is the container for real love, trust and respect.

The feminine will respond to this power with her love, support, and nurturing. She will be attracted to the masculine.

When the masculine leaks his power to areas of his life that don’t matter, his balance is thrown off. His power to give to the areas of his life that matter are drained. The dynamic within the relationship will not be healthy. The feminine will need to make up for the immaturity of her masculine partner because he is leaking all of his power and causing problems in the balance of his life and the lives of the people that he has committed to support with his power.

I was leaking power to addictions and people pleasing under the pressures of life and taking power away from my emotional health and it began to be evident.

I was leaking power in areas that mattered. I was spending all of our money. I was emotionally unstable. I had addictions and I wasn’t showing up in the important areas of my life. I wasn’t safe for her. I couldn’t say no to people who pressured me. I said yes to others to keep them happy with me, even if it meant inconveniencing her.

And she would test my power by openly questioning my strength in these areas. And I would cry because I could see that I was losing her trust and respect when I had no answers for her. I wanted to be her man that would be who she needed, but eventually she knew the truth about me. I wasn’t as powerful as I believed I was.

She became frustrated with me because I was unreliable in being who she needed me to be.

And then the shift in the dynamic of our relationship happened. This meant that she viewed me as a child, not the man that she had given her heart to. She had to hold the family together because I wasn’t. I was the biggest problem in our life.

All the benefits of her love went away. It was the worst experience of my life.

I didn’t know why I lost her. I was clueless. I had never learned anything about the things I wrote above.

I didn’t know why I was the way that I was and I didn’t know how to get her back. I didn’t know the first thing about this energetic balance needed for love to thrive in.

If you wonder why your relationship with your spouse or partner is not where you want it to be, it could be that the balance is off for reasons that are in your control.

The road back to balance where the dynamic in your relationship is beautiful and healthy takes work, but it’s worth it.

Go get her back!

Stick around and I’ll be sharing all that I learned in my quest to get the love of my life back.